How Decision Making Increases Kids Self Confidence

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A great thing a parent can do to help enhance their child’s self-esteem is to allow them to make decisions. Whether it is allowing them to pick a color shirt or which chore they would like to do, letting them choose decisions, problem solve, and so on, will help them to feel good about what they have decided upon.

When they make that decision, respect or compliment what they have chosen. For example, let them know you love their outfit and overall, let them know you value what they have decided. In wanting your child to make decisions there are several things you can do to encourage this.

Here are a few ideas to get you started so that your child can make choices which not only helps build their self-esteem, but helps them to be independent and confident that they can make the right choice.

–          Let your child plan a meal that they would like to eat and take them out shopping to buy the ingredients. Allow them to not only decide the meal but put the meal together.

–          Help your child to find a hobby they would like. Although you can assist, have them pick something they would like to do. Perhaps it is painting, taking karate classes, or so on. Let them choose and support them in their choice.

–          Allow your child to choose what they would like to wear to school depending on their age, of course. You wouldn’t want them to choose something to wear that would then cause other students to make fun of them, but you can
allow them to choose a red shirt or a striped shirt, and so on.

–          You can also let your child choose what to eat. Ask them if they want to bring lunch to school, or buy lunch there. Ask them if they want waffles or pancakes for breakfast.

–          Play games that allow your child to make decisions. For example, the Game of Life allows you to go down two pathways. Play strategy games that get them to make decisions such as Checkers, Battle Ship, and any others you can think of.

–          When it comes to reading or doing homework, allow your son or daughter to choose which they would like to do first such as English or Math, or allow them to choose what book they would like to read.

These are just some of many ideas that can give your child a boost in their self-esteem. Keep in mind that you will always want their offered choices to be age appropriate.

You will not want them to feel pressured or that they made the wrong decision and if they are too young to make a “good” choice, this can have a negative impact on confidence in kids.

With Pride & Respect

Lee Mainprize